High Maintenance

slice of life updated

When I was in my early twenties, a close friend’s father got remarried. When I asked my friend what his dad’s new wife was like, he replied, “I like her. But she’s high maintenance.”

“High maintenance?” I responded, completely puzzled. I’d never heard that expression before. I was thinking about his mom, a no-nonsense, blue-jeans-wearing mother-of four who made the best cheesecake I’d ever tasted. I asked my friend to explain. He went on to say that his father’s new wife was never not fully made up, her hair was always styled and colored to perfection. She is so blonde, he added. She wore heels even in the daytime. And lots of jewelry and perfume.  She sounded really different than his mother, but his dad was happy.

I was young, never wore makeup, and pearl earrings were the only jewelry I wore. If I wasn’t at work, I lived in jeans, a turtleneck and Tretorns or Bean boots. Whatever childhood blonde was left in my hair was quickly fading to mousy brown. I usually wore it pulled back in a ponytail and didn’t think much about it. Most days I couldn’t be bothered to put in contact lenses, so I wore my glasses. I remember walking away from the conversation with my friend thinking that it sounded like a lot of work to look like the woman he described.

Why am I thinking right now about a conversation that took place almost 30 years ago? Because I am sitting at the hair salon, spending hours and too many dollars having my hair cut and highlighted. And I’ve been doing this since shortly after that conversation. I’m not wearing makeup and I still wear my glasses more often than contact lenses. But I think I have become a little “high maintenance” myself.


11 thoughts on “High Maintenance

  1. My friends and I call it treating ourselves! It’s nice to treat yourself and take care yourself because we all deserve it! I love manicures it helps me!


  2. Loved the slice, but I admit my eyes kept wandering over to the right side of the screen to see the list of blogs you follow. You have good taste. I’ve deliberately sought out some of them multiple times now and have given in and clicked follow on many others. 🙂


  3. I think of high maintenance also as people who demand a lot of attention and who need things to go their way, in addition to the cultivation of their appearance.


  4. I agree with the comment about it being “self care”. You’re also doing something that you want to do, not that you feel that you have to do (at least it seems!) I love getting my hair done! Enjoy the pampering!


  5. I would not call what you are doing “high maintenance.” You should spend time to pamper yourself every now and then. It’s okay.

    Now I enjoy a manicure every two weeks and pedicures about four times a year. They’re the best! I didn’t start to do either until I turned fifty! Why did I wait so long?!


  6. Self care is what I would call it. High maintenance has such a negative sense about it. Later today will find me having a pedicure. Hair was last week:)


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